It’s All On You
YOU ARE THE CAPTAIN OF YOUR SHIP
YOU determine whether you navigate to your demise or your prosperity. If you’ve been playing the blame game recently, this one's for you.
Stackers. This won’t be pretty. Blaming others for your actions (or lack of action) is what children do. I will admit it, recently… I was doing this myself. I had to stop. It was tearing me apart, causing me to procrastinate on things I knew I needed to get done, and pushing me further and further behind the person I know I could currently be. It wasn’t fun. It actually disgusted me. I can admit that I WAS DISGUSTED WITH MYSELF. I lied to myself and made it seem like all of these outside forces had to do with why shit wasn’t like I wanted but to be honest, only person I could blame was myself. I was burned out, and my mental state was allowing all of these obstacles to be put in my life. And it was all my fault for allowing it all to pile up and be put off. ALL ME. CHILDISH. Never again.
When you constantly look for others to take responsibility for harms done to you and around you, you give up all of your power. You are saying you are powerless. This isn’t true. If you’re not where you want to be in life, that’s your fault. It’s important to practice accountability and self responsibility INSTEAD of teaching yourself that it is always on someone else to make moves or not do things or take care of something for you.
So YOU are your own captain. You determine what storms you go through. You determine who is along for the ride and who has to get the fuck off the boat. YOU. A HUGE part of growing up is taking accountability for yourself, rights and wrongs. When something keeps happening to you in your adulthood, it is up to you to look inside and ask yourself if you’re allowing it… if this is the direction you want to go in… what are you doing to attract or repel this particular energy, it all plays a part. Staying where you don’t belong is not the path to success. Being in places you don’t belong just pushes you further off course. If you’re determined to enter the tech field, working 12 hrs a day as a roofer will not move you closer to working in tech. Sure, networking works… but you also have to align yourself with the direction you want to be heading in. Being around people who don’t read when you want to make it a habit of reading one book a week for a whole year, a goal, is counterproductive. If at the end of the year, you fall short, you can only blame SELF. That person may be a distraction but you allowed them the time and space to derail you. Plain and simple.
When someone else does something to you, that’s your warning. Take heed. If you allow them to continue to do it, then that’s on YOU. You’re giving them the access to continue fuckery in YOUR SPACE and on YOUR TIME. You ever hear “fool me once, that’s on you.. fool me twice, that’s on me”? It’s very true. Whether it’s business decisions, personal relationships, or money… the first time, it’s not your fault. If it happens again, YOU SHOULD’VE LEARNED YOUR LESSON. If the boat you’re in has a small leak and you know about it BEFORE taking it out, whose fault is it that the boat is about to sink in the middle of the lake with you in it due to that leak? YOU. Apply this to your entire life. If you know that person doesn’t do good business, why enter into a business relationship with them? They already don’t treat you how you want to be treated? Dead them and stop wasting your time.
It’s 2025, TAKE YOUR POWER BACK. Have no power? Go find some within yourself and work on it. This is your boat. DRIVE THAT SHIT. This ain’t a Navy Destroyer, your boat has ONE captain and ONE navigator, and that is YOU. Never forget that. Don’t let anyone drive your boat. And don’t let them try and navigate you like they know your waters. Blame can only be placed on SELF when things go wrong. Either you screwed up yourself OR you allowed someone the access to mess shit up.